5. When she visited a popular date spot by herself.
“Ouch! I didn’t need to be reminded that I don’t have a boyfriend,” one Japanese woman said in agony. Unless she has exceptionally thick skin, it’s difficult to witness couples in love and not feel lonely or left out. If you see a post on her Facebook page saying that she “enjoyed” stargazing by herself, try to cheer her up by making an innocent joke.
6. When she has no love stories to share or brag about during a girls’ night out.
“I had nothing to add when my friends were talking about their boyfriends,” a young Japanese woman told us with sagging shoulders. A girls’ night out is supposed to be fun, but she feels left out because she doesn’t have a love story of her own to share. If she mutters to you about her girls’ night out turning sour, showing your compassion by sharing a similar experience can bring you closer together.
7. When she discovers that her old classmate gave birth to her second child.
“I don’t even have a boyfriend and I feel jealous,” confessed one Japanese woman in her 20s. There’s nothing she can do about it, but she still can’t help comparing it with her current situation and becoming green with envy. “There’s a baby boom around me, it must be the water,” some women may joke, pretending that it doesn’t bother them, but they may secretly be resentful inside.
8. When no one visited her in the hospital.
One Japanese woman in her 20s sobbed, “First time in my life, I felt so lonely.” In Japan, it’s not uncommon to be admitted into the hospital for a relatively run-of-the-mill illness such as pneumonia. Regardless of why she was in the hospital, when she is feeling unwell, receiving no visitors to comfort her is emotionally heartbreaking. It’s like being kicked when she’s already down. If you find that she is feeling unwell, even if it’s from a little cold, send her a quick word so she knows you care.